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do you trust the universe

Every word spoken or harbored in thought, creates your life. Emotions festering internally or unleashed in our surroundings affect the substance of the universe and create our lives. What are you creating? Are you conscious to the process or asleep?

Too easily, believing we are awake, we are more like robots pursuing a pre-programmed image of what our lives should be. The images come from powerful emotional experiences in childhood or later that impress on us. A woman who idealized both her father, a doctor, and Mother Theresa, devalued her life as a wife and mother. She believed a ‘real’ contribution would be ministering to and saving others.

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This sort of image threatens our connection to a real life – and we all have such images. We believe we should be healthy or wealthy. We should have a great relationship, well-behaved children or no children and a gratifying career. We have demands for our appearance, sex life, eating habits, exercise and social status. Nothing is too trivial to escape our expectations. We are proud to be driven and convinced we must push to make the ideal come true.

Our icons may be from Hollywood, the roster of Catholic Saints, or a parent. We want to be a kickass muscle man or woman, social justice warrior or rich as Croesus. Such distortions can be subtle and insidious, affecting our self-opinion and life choices, leading us to neglect or bypass a real life for a dream.

My friend who idealized Mother Theresa pushed herself hard and eventually contracted a debilitating chronic illness. Though it took all her strength to make it through a day, she berated herself. “I have to find the cure, so I can save other people.” She attended conferences, sought out knowledgeable practitioners and alternative treatments. She was determined “to heal myself so I can help others.”

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When, eventually, she saw her belief and the pattern of her life-long behavior, she summed her insight brilliantly, “I’m pushing my way through life. This is a crazy way to live. I don’t need to save anyone, not even myself. I need simple self-care.”

What is your image of a life worth living? Do you push and force life to look a certain way? When we do so, it is the ego, the judge or a demanding child who is running the show.

There is another way to live, trusting the goodness of life itself. The universe is beneficent but also malleable to our will. It wants what is the best for us, but we are in charge. Obstacles preventing the flow of energy to create a joyful life are always our own.


How can I tell if the life I’m trying to create is from my ego or my Self?

This is an important question.

Before her insight, my friend said, “But of course my dream of curing this illness and saving people is right. Why else would I be sick? My goal is not selfish.” But the ego has many faces, and one can as easily be a little girl enamored of her father’s power to heal as any other.

Hopelessness can also be a demand. Another woman, intelligent and capable, lives on the brink of financial ruin. She moves from job to job always in search of something better. When she gets ahead, she spends her way back down. Eventually, jobless, in crisis again, she contacts old friends for money. She believes the universe is against her. Her behavior is a subtle manipulation of the people she knows to feel loved. It is an ever-elusive goal.


If your creation is a state of overwhelm, misery or dissatisfaction with yourself or someone else, it is the ego judge or demanding child at work. If your heart is at peace, you are on the right track. This is not the same as an ideal or perfect life. You may still be terribly sick, get laid off, find yourself caught in a hostile divorce, or caring for aging parents.

Driving and pushing will never yield the richness of life. The secret is letting go into trusting the goodness of life, doing what your choices and the universe have placed in front of you today.


As the sages say, it’s simple and not necessarily easy. It starts with meditation, with listening for truth and guidance.

Questions such as these support thoughtful contemplation:

  • What am I creating with my life as I live now?
  • Why would I want to create that?
  • Where does this desire come from?
  • What would I really like to create in my life?
  • And, why would I want that?
  • What keeps me from trusting life?

Winter is a time of rest and reflection. Spring comes all too soon. What would you like to create for yourself this coming new year?


If you’re looking for someone to provide spiritual guidance in Scottsdale, reach out and contact Dr. Sandra Egli at Center of Intention. Call (480) 860-0400 today!

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The wisdom of a thousand generations guides you today. Only listen. Without a sound their voices reverberate in your cells. Settle within and choose your path.

All of us come from strength, fortitude, perseverance. No matter how difficult their lives, our ancestors made it through and passed on life for the next generation. Over and over, until it came to you. The intelligence that guided them has also come to you.

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