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What do you believe is the purpose of your life? Are you able to put it to words? Do you believe you have one life or more to come? A 2013 online Harris poll found that 24% of respondents believe in reincarnation. An earlier poll (2005) estimated that 20% of Americans believe in reincarnation.

We can’t be certain whether we have multiple lives. For the sake of this conversation, let’s suppose that whether or not you will reincarnate, you chose the life you were born into this time around. If so, the question is, “Why did you choose these circumstances? What did you intend?”

To answer the question consider all aspects of your life: those with which you are happy and especially those aspects that cause you distress or suffering. Your list might include: I regret my divorce. I have a hard time making a living. I don’t have close friends. My brother and I are like oil and water. I don’t have children.

Consider any one of your sorrows or frustrations and ask yourself, “Why would I choose this challenge? What could I possibly learn from this?” Analyse your list as a whole. Is there a pattern in your problems?

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Perhaps you wrote ‘I grew up in a violent home.’ What is the consequence of that experience in your life? Have you found yourself repeatedly in violent circumstances? Did you conclude that you cannot trust anyone? If so, is it possible that a greater purpose in your life is to learn that you can trust, that you are safe, and that you do not need to live in constant fear? For that purpose to be fulfilled you may first have to learn that you have the right to choose your friends and your environment, and even learn how to choose friends.

Some of the people I have spoken with about this have insisted, “I would never have chosen my parents.” This perspective is frequently the result of physical or verbal abuse that sometimes continues into adulthood. No matter what the situation is, I assert that your life is not about your parents. They set the stage and wrote the early dialogue but the play is your life story. All about you not them.

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A few of my friends have doubted their choice of siblings. Why would they have incarnated with this brother or sister from whom they are so different and for whom they have ‘no use.’ One who constantly creates problems and expects the family to rescue him from the consequences. Or one who is always telling them how they should live their life.

One close friend threatens never to speak to her brother again because of his attempts to convert her to his religious view. She has a hard time believing that his urgings and insistence are an expression of his love for her. She wants his love to support her in her choices. That sounds reasonable but rejecting love that doesn’t meet our expectations can cost friendships, platonic and romantic, as my friend has experienced.

Another woman told me that when her sister calls she is immediately on guard and suspicious. Yet, when she heard her sister was having health problems, she sat and cried. “I guess that means I love her but we sure do not have a loving relationship.”

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Perhaps that is the point. Perhaps we come in together to learn trust, love, and kindness to one another although we are different from ‘our toes to our nose.’ And perhaps we cry when we realize we could end our lives having never learned to acknowledge our love to one another.

Evaluating the Purpose of My Family Relationships

It is a powerful question: What is the (purpose of) the relationship between my family and me? Family is in our blood. We cannot walk away. Even when we do they come along at the most intimate level. It took many years for me to accept some less than idyllic dynamics of my own family. Doing so allowed me my love for them and their love for me as it is, not as I wished it to be. It also opened my heart to the love of friends outside my blood relationships.

For one person the sorrows may focus on not being heard or recognized. For another, the fear of being left alone. In each case there is something to learn: a new dynamic, a productive way to be in relationship that can bring you the love you desire.

So here are some questions to ask yourself as you look for your life purpose:

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  • What have you given?
  • What have you gained?
  • How have others shown you love that you rejected?
  • Why did you reject that love?
  • What was the origin of your rejection?

Though you may not come to absolute clarity in your search for meaning, the search itself is worthy. It isn’t about your profession or your achievements. The purpose of your life will have more to do with the qualities and characteristics you have grown and developed in your relationship to yourself and others. Strength, Peace, Joy, Acceptance, Open Heartedness, Compassion, Trust, and Value, to name a few.


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The wisdom of a thousand generations guides you today. Only listen. Without a sound their voices reverberate in your cells. Settle within and choose your path.

All of us come from strength, fortitude, perseverance. No matter how difficult their lives, our ancestors made it through and passed on life for the next generation. Over and over, until it came to you. The intelligence that guided them has also come to you.

To Thine own Self be true.

If I could present you with a single blessing, it would be the gift of Mindfulness. Awareness of yourself: body, emotions, and self-talk, all the time. Our immediate experience is the ultimate exploration that only grows richer with time. What we do or don't do, and the roots of our behavior, are accessible with the simple practice of noticing immediate experience. It is this practice that makes it possible to know and be true to ourselves.


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