We shrink from the reality because we are reluctant to accept that we have a hand in negative and painful events. In fact, such realization can be the source of self-punishment and blame that is terribly counterproductive. Harsh self-criticism is itself a negative emotion that blocks us from creating a joyful life. It is an example of the underlying conflicting beliefs and feelings that we have about almost everything. As a result, what we create is equally confused and contradictory.
Such split intentions may also occur in unsatisfying relationships. One partner (or both) want the relationship to improve while simultaneously convinced the other person can’t and won’t ever change.
Even having friends in for dinner or taking a vacation can be fraught with apprehension as well as pleasure. When events so minor as these give rise to confusion, the larger creation of our lives is bound to be a muddle.
Principle #1: Our conscious and unconscious must be in harmony
Only by bringing everything we think, believe, and want into conscious awareness can we can see the disorderly and destructive intentions we hold. Awareness provides us the opportunity to confront, examine and resolve what is untrue in our beliefs and to recover the truth.
The destructive tendencies that play havoc with our lives are the deep-seated convictions such as, ‘I’m not good enough’, ‘no one will ever love me’, or ‘I don’t know how.’ Working to dissolve these takes patience. Their dissolution brings the inner and outer into harmony and expands our potential for creation.
Principle #2: What we wish to create must be clear – and clearly stated
This process succeeds to the extent that the subconscious is at peace with conscious awareness. That is, while you may never eliminate an embedded negative belief, coming to know it like the back of your hand makes room for what you truly want to sink into the unconscious. And when you run into more formerly unconscious but now conscious negative blocks, you circle around to work with them.
Principle #3: Your soul must be at peace with what you desire
Then the soul takes precedence, leading the conscious self to take actions appropriate to fulfill the goal. It is important to listen for Guidance and follow the guidance we receive. Always open, letting the universe move us to reach a deeper level of the soul’s fulfillment. When you doubt your worthiness or ability to achieve your heart’s desire, you must return to consider what conflict is holding you back.
Principle #4: Trust
When you are clear about the goal and the soul is on board, you will feel your desire and the outcome as joyful, peaceful, and pleasurable. You won’t be filled with self-justification or fantasy, neither of which are signs of the soul’s fulfillment. At this stage it is worthwhile to sit with the sensations of joy and pleasure to come.
Primary Principle: Meditate
Following guidance means we must be able to distinguish between guidance from the Higher Self and the ego’s drive to force what it wants. And the best way to learn the distinction is through meditation. In fact, meditation is at the heart of the entire process. Meditation allows us to see our false assumptions and harsh self-judgments. It is the means to work through our splits and come into harmony. Meditation gives the soul a voice and guides our daily activity to achieve the soul’s true purpose, a life worth living, a life of joy.
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